Okay, so I just found out I’m pregnant. I’m, at best guess, about six weeks in. I’m 28 years old and this will be my first child.
I am by no means a fitness fanatic, but I exercise daily and I take care of my physical appearance and physique. I don’t like to think of myself as a vain person. But, like many, I find myself worrying about the changes my body will endure post-pregnancy. So, to reassure myself, I decided to search online for some uplifting, positive post-baby articles.
Man, was I disappointed! BIG MISTAKE!!!
I discovered that not only were there no positive post-labor stories for me to read, there were no positive pregnancy experiences either! It seems that every woman who has had a difficult labor or pregnancy wants to share their horror stories with you. I was met with article after article after article of horrific details! And when it came specifically to body-after-baby, these women wanted me to know that I will forever piss myself when I sneeze, how my boobs will eternally sag, and my stomach will be ruined with stretchmarks. These are not my words, but theirs.
What negative framework!!
I, of course, expect life to never be the same—but in a good way! A child is the most beautiful kind of change.
But these women wanted me to know that I would forever struggle with body-image issues. As if women don’t have enough of that pressure already!!
So I have decided to put some positivity out there into the internet-verse.
Be the change you wish you see in the world, right? Well I am going to try and be the positive light that I had hoped to find in the dark abyss that is the internet.
Misery does NOT love company!! But you know what does? Happiness!
Okay. So I am sure some of you mothers will read this and be like, “Ha! You are so naïve. You haven’t even had your first child. Just you wait…”
And perhaps you are right? But, perspective is everything. And I am convinced that with the right perspective and framework that I will be able to find some positivity to share. Not exclusively in regards to body-image, but about the whole pregnancy experience altogether.
And that’s what new mothers really need.
NO ONE WANTS TO READ ABOUT YOUR STORIES OF TEARING AND STITCHES!!!! Especially new mothers! We are already so scared, why give us that extra anxiety and fear? It seems so spiteful and, frankly, malicious for these women to dump all their misery on us like a garbage-truck.
Anxiety and fear aren’t good for you, full stop, period… I’d imagine they aren’t good for my unborn baby either.
So let’s flood the internet with happiness! With positivity! And warmth!
Please, share your UPLIFITING, REASSURING, HAPPY, AND POSITIIVE pregnancy, labor, and post-labor stories here!
And I will continue to share my experience as it evolves. But I promise that, even when there is hardship, as I know there will be, I will always frame it in the most positive light possible.
There is enough negativity in the world! Let’s let in the light!
I'm Kelsey! Proud Iowan native, world traveler, writer, wife to the most incredible husband, and now soon to be mother